At least that's the opinion of a certain blogger I stumbled upon the other day.
This blogger claims to not have enough time under his belt to pass advice about marriage and family, but this doesn't stop him from throwing out his thoughts.
Don't get me wrong, I understand that it is his prerogative to have an opinion, a different way of thinking. But so do I. So here's my response to that blogger and anyone else who thinks that college leads to marriage and kids before reaching 30.
As I read through the post, I realized that this blogger felt if people aren't married and starting a family by the age of 25 they are not fulfilling their destiny...
At a young age, I understood that everyone walks through life differently.
Some people go to college, some don't.
Some people are happy with their job, some aren't.
Some people get married.
Some people have kids.
And no one should be badgered about their life decisions by someone else.
That woman you asked about marriage has had her heart broken more times that she can count. She genuinely wants to love and be loved by someone who will treat her like the queen she deserves. However, God hasn't sent the man along who can fill those boots. Your questioning only makes her feel like she isn't doing something right; that she's not good enough for anyone.
That couple you know that have been married for a couple months or even a few years...they would make perfect parents! But what you don't know is that they have been told biological kids are not an option for them. Your comments about having little ones cuts her to her core. Her husband holds her as she sobs, assuring her that she's no less a woman and he loves her no matter what.
Everyone has hopes, dreams, fears, wounds...
Everyone has a story.
Just because they are not living their lives by your standards or your rules or your ideas does NOT mean that they are wrong.
So maybe the next time you see that friend, or family member, or acquaintance, or church member, or co-worker, or stranger and want to make a comment about their life...
Stop.
Smile.
Accept.
Love.
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